…And that is because “arbitrary” is the only thing that I can write!
Life is getting a bit hilarious. My parents are trying to figure what to write in a matrimonial ad. Now, it just so happens that they have given away all the old newspapers and so, no sample to work with. All sorts of adjectives come to mind but well, it shouldn’t really extend 5/6 lines…so then, how do I describe my daughter in those lines…hmm.
They haven’t taken my advise (which, let me be a bit modest…is not always wrong 😀 ). It is much easier to just look at the “Brides Wanted” page and send interest if you like a profile. But no, they want to spend money, and that too in a useless way!!!
Someone told my brother that Shaadi.com site is not exactly a genuine one and since then my parents have been a bit worried (I wonder why! I haven’t yet gone on date with a man I got in touch with, from that site!). In fact most men are registered in that website because they wouldn’t mind some harmless fun. I agree, it just seems so. People don’t seem to be serious about things…almost, window shopping. But then sometimes, even I think I am window shopping for why else would I back out whenever someone shows some serious interest in me. Why indeed? Do I not trust my choice anymore? Or am I just not ready? Or are they just not the “right ones”.
I know that there is no one-particular perfect person for anyone (I need to get married and totally be in love with that man to actually believe that marriages are made in heaven). And you cannot find everything you asked for in a life partner. But then you have to realise, there are some things you want and somethings you’d not be able to stand and some you’d be indifferent to. For instance I have realised that I cannot live with a snob. In fact chances are that I am going to snub every snob I meet…and I am totally capable of doing so. I can be so unimaginably, incredibly nasty to such people…but then, for that I need to be in a really bad mood. In fact some of us might not even know exactly what they want. And then, after a while a love and an arranged marriage pretty much stand on the same platform. The relationship though depends on your attitude. I think love, fondness or whatever, lies in the little everyday moments which we might just overlook. Personally, I like spontaneity in a relationship.
So anyways, my mother today inquired about the guy I had related my story to…whether he had replied back. According to her, he should have atleast sent a reply to the mail (which according to her was well written and warranted a reply) and let me know of his decision But then, I reminded her that I had made it rather simple for him…he doesn’t even have to get in touch with me for me to get the answer. This way, it is simple, easy and quick for both parties involved. After all, my aim is to just know an answer, not to put anyone in an uncomfortable position.
I am only thankful that my father didn’t need to do this! But there is a very good thing that I noticed about myself – I do not get emotional about any proposal anymore. Well, this is the second person I’ve met via a matrimonial site…the first was couple of years back and not such a great experience (I wonder why that date went so bad and especially when it was just the two of us and no family…hmm! Nope…square peg, round hole for sure). So, for a second experience, I should be more involved, emotionally…right? But strangely, I am not. I think I now have the ability to chat with a guy, write and even go out on a date without any expectations at all. But then, I think I always had that…I could always do that. I just didn’t know that when men (some of them) say they like you or love you, they do not exactly mean it. Wisdom arrived, albeit a bit late! So anyways, I have actually used this new found knowledge and helped a person…can you believe it 😀
In other news, I find some people very irritating and amusing. I know this girl from masters who is now married etc etc. Her FB profile is filled with her portraits. Well, she is one of those women who have started looking better post-marriage and with age! So everyday, she posts a picture of hers in a new dress. Sometimes just a new pose but mostly in a saree (though I have to admit, she has a good collection). I mean, grow up! There was a time when I used to be over-enthusiastic about taking my snaps, till I realised how much fun it was to take snaps of everything but “me”. Why and when does a person get obsessed with their own snaps…when they become a bit narcissist. Or when she/he is fishing for compliments…on their dress, looks etc etc. (Well, everybody likes compliments but then on different things). I find this behaviour incredibly immature.
I have realised one thing in the last two years … It is much more fun being a photographer than a model! 🙂